Friday, 24 February 2023

What good does forgiveness do?

 A sermon for Bloomsbury Central Baptist Church
26 February 2023

This sculpture is made from decommissioned weapons 
from the civil war in Mozambique 
as part of the Christian Aid 'Swords to Ploughshares' project.

Matthew 18:21-35
 
Imagine two children sat in the back of the car, setting off on a long journey.
            The chances are that it won’t be long before the chanting begins of
                        ‘are we nearly there yet, are we nearly there yet?’.
 
But it probably also won’t be long
            before this refrain is replaced by more anguished cries:
 
‘MUM, she’s over my side’
            leading inevitably to ‘DAD, he’s hit me’,
                        in turn eliciting ‘but she started it’
                                    followed by ‘but he was asking for it’.
 
And so on until journey’s end,
            or until a frustrated parent intervenes
                        to try and bring some peace back to the car,
            by reminding the children
                        that, ‘Two wrongs don’t make a right’
 
This scenario could easily be a parable for the world we find ourselves in,
            as this week we mark the one-year anniversary
            of the Russian invasion of Ukraine.
 
Our screens have been full of coverage
            of the horrific taking place on the edge of Europe
as, once again, death and destruction, and fear and tragedy
            are played out in widescreen in our living rooms.
 
None of us who have witnessed these scenes
            can remain unmoved by them
and the emotions they stir within us
            are deep, profoundly upsetting,
            and for some intensely personal.
 
Of course, the offensive in Ukraine
            is not the first time punches have been exchanged,
            and neither will it be the last.
 
From the great war to the cold war,
            from Palestine to Afghanistan,
                        from Iran to Iraq,
            from crusade to jihad,
                        from London to Madrid,
            from Bali to Sharm el Sheikh,
the cycle of punch and counter-punch
            has defined the relationship between East and West
            for over a thousand years.
 
 
 
Those of us who live in the Western world,
            and who enjoy and laud all the many benefits
                        and freedoms which it grants to us,
            cannot escape the troubling fact
                        that our so-called ‘free world’
                        is also locked into a destructive cycle
                                    of violence and counter-violence.
 
Whether in defence of honour, or territory,
            or wealth, or freedom,
or whether in search of justice or retribution,
            we all find ourselves complicit, willingly or unwillingly,
            in the spiralling world of retribution, violence and unforgiveness.
 
The question before us,  
            is what on earth are we to do?
 
Indeed, we might ask,
            what on earth can be done?
Who on earth has the power to intervene, to bring peace,
            to a world which seems hell-bent on fighting its way to journey’s end?
 
The situation was not so different in the first century.
 
The Jewish nation had been trading punches for centuries.
            From Assyria to Babylonia, from Greece to Rome,
                        from the Seleucids to the Maccabees.
 
Conquest, violence, terrorism and revolution
            had become an inescapable part of what it meant to be Jewish.
 
Then, as now, the world was inextricably wedded
            to the myth of violence and counter-violence.
 
And it was to people all-too-familiar with the vicious cycles of retribution
            that Jesus told a parable,
                        not about two children fighting in the back of a long car journey,
                        but about two servants and a king.
 
His parable provides a perfect example
            of the destructive nature of the cycles of retaliation and unforgiveness.
 
Let’s spend a moment with the first servant in the story:
            he is both a debtor and a creditor.
 
He is owed money by someone who is below him in the social hierarchy,
            but he also himself owes money to someone else
                        much higher up the ladder than he is.
 
He’s a middle man, and he’s in all sorts of financial trouble.
            He owes an unpayable debt to his king,
                        far more than he’s ever likely to earn in his lifetime;
            but he’s also owed a much smaller debt by another.
 
He is, by the laws of debt and justice,
            entirely within his rights to demand repayment
                        from the one who owes money to him.
 
He’s entirely within his rights to extract his just dues,
            and if he chooses to do so by exercising violence
                        against the second servant
            he is, by the law of his day, entitled to do so.
 
But, and here’s the catch,
            he is also in a position where the king has every entitlement
                        to do exactly the same to him,
            but more so, because the debt he owes the king
                        is so much higher than the debt he is owed.
 
Think about it for a moment:
If Jesus’ had simply told a story
            about a servant who was owed some money,
            and who then took his payment by force,
the chances are that we would say – well, fair enough.
 
Some might speculate that he was a bit harsh,
            throwing the man into debtors prison,
but some might also reflect that the man clearly had it coming
            and that he shouldn’t have got into debts he couldn’t repay.
 
The real power of the parable
            comes from the fact that the servant’s actions
                        are contrasted with the treatment he himself received
                                    at the hands of the king.
 
In the light of the forgiveness he received for his own unpayable debt,
            his imprisonment of his debtor
            suddenly appears both hypocritical and shocking.
 
He is, it turns out, a man who is happy to receive forgiveness,
            but is unwilling to offer it.
 
Of course, the twist at the end of the story
            is that his decision to withhold forgiveness comes back to bite him,
            and he ends up tortured for his lack of forgiveness.
 
In the gospels, and particularly in Matthew’s gospel,
            where this story of Jesus is recorded,
the language of debt and the language of sin
            are presented as two ways of talking about the same thing.
 
Sins are not personal moral failures in Matthew’s gospel,
            rather they are debts, or obligations, that cry out for repayment.
 
So if I were to say to someone that they had sinned against me,
            I would be saying that they owed me,
            and that they must therefore be made to pay.
 
We still use the language of sin and debt in a similar way today:
 
Imagine the gangster whose honour has been slighted,
            leaning forwards in a sinister manner
                        and pronouncing in a deep voice:
                        ‘you’re gonna pay for that’.
 
So much of the violence we encounter in our world,
            both at an interpersonal and international level,
is about making the other person ‘pay’
            for some actual or perceived sin or injustice.
 
From terrorist bomb, to punishment beating, to tactical invasion
            - violence and ‘repayment for sins’ are intertwined.
 
We even meet this language of sin and debt in the Lord’s prayer.
 
The version most people know best says,
            ‘forgive us our trespasses,
            as we forgive those who trespass against us’;
or if we’re using the more modern version,
            ‘forgive us our sins,
            as we forgive those who sin against us’.
 
But if we turn to the version of the prayer recorded in Matthew’s gospel,
            we meet not the language of sin and trespass, but the language of debt.
 
Matthew 6.12 reads, ‘forgive us our debts,
            as we also have forgiven our debtors.’
 
And in Luke’s gospel,
            the only other place the Lord’s prayer appears in the Bible,
the language of sin and the language of debt are intermingled:
            Luke 11.4 ‘forgive us our sins,
                        for we ourselves forgive everyone indebted to us.’
 
We might say, therefore, that sins committed against God
            are debts to God that cry out for repayment.
 
And that any forgiveness we receive for these debts owed to God
            is inextricably linked to the offering of forgiveness
                        to those who in turn owe debts to us.
 
This is the point of the parable told by Jesus:
            The servant has not learned the lesson
                        that if his own debts have been forgiven,
                        he must also forgive those who owe him a debt.
 
He has forgotten the debt he owed to the king,
            and has become fixated with justifying the debt owed to him.
 
Or, to put it another way, he has forgotten that he is himself a sinner,
            and has become fixated with the fact that he has been sinned against.
 
In this servant’s action,
            we see clearly the violent and destructive outcome of non-forgiveness.
 
The consequence of his actions to extract of his just reward
            is that he himself ends up a tortured soul,
                        unable to pay his own debts,
                        unable to justify his own sinfulness,
            even though forgiveness has been offered to him.
 
We live in a world that is so often dedicated to the extraction of just dues:
            You hurt me, I’ll hurt you.!
            You bomb my city, I’ll bomb yours!
 
These cycles of violence and counter violence are so ingrained within us,
            and appear so seductively just and righteous.
 
Like children in the back of the car we cry:
            ‘she’s over my side’, and ‘he hit me’ and ‘she started it’.
 
All too often there is seemingly no way out
            of this spiral of punch and counter punch,
            which can only ever end in mutually destructive results.
 
And yet Jesus points us to the intervention of the loving parent.
 
Our own desire for justice and retribution,
            however righteous it may be,
needs to be set against the forgiveness offered to us
            by the one to whom we ourselves owe an unpayable debt.
 
When others sin against us, either individually or nationally,
            as they do, sometimes in terrible ways,
we need to measure our response
            by the response of the loving God
            to those who have sinned against him
 
Before we jump on our high horse and start to demand justice
            from those who have sinned against us,
we need to recognize that there may be others
            who might well be entitled to do the same from us.
 
I’m not just thinking here about the international response
            to terrorist actions or aggressive invasions,
I’m also thinking that each of us, as individuals,
            will have incurred debts from others,
each of us has, in different ways, sinned against others,
            just as others have sinned against us.
 
So when we pray, ‘forgive us our debts, as we forgive the debts of others’
            or ‘forgive us our trespasses
            as we forgive those who trespass against us’,
we are praying that a new way of being human,
            and new way of relating to others,
                        will come into being in our midst
                        and by our actions.
 
In this place we speak of the forgiveness offered to us by God,
            and we say that we are those who are forgiven.
 
So in the wake of those moments
            when others do to us a great wrong,
rather than automatically biting back, punching back,
            might we not instead be those who will seek an alternative response?
 
Might we not be those whose lives will bring into being
            the new way of relating to others that Jesus talked about:
            a way of relating built on forgiveness, rather than retribution?
 
So what is the just and righteous response at such times?
            What is to be said today, one year after Russia invaded Ukraine?
 
Is it to ask ‘how can we stop this terrible thing that is happening?’
             - possibly.
 
Is it to ask ‘who is responsible, and how can they be brought to justice’
             - possibly.
 
Is it to assert that ‘we must ensure that the aggressors are defeated
            in such a way that they will never attempt to do the same again,
            either in Ukraine or elsewhere?’
             - possibly this too is a just response.
 
But will these responses truly break
            the cycle of violence and counter violence?
I very much doubt it.
 
Difficult though this is,
            especially when someone has intentionally committed a great evil,
to see that atrocity as the latest in a long cycle
            of violence and oppression,
            imprisonment and subjugation,
            repression and retaliation,
is I think to learn to see it as it truly is.
 
When we retaliate in the name of righteousness and justice,
            when we meet violence with escalating violence,
                        when we demand our pound of flesh from the other
                        in return for wrongs committed against us,
            we are committing ourselves to a spiral of retribution
                        that can only end in torture and terror.
 
Is there another way?
            Yes.
 
It’s called forgiveness.
 
The title of this sermon is a question:
            ‘What good does forgiveness do?’
And here we have the answer:
            It breaks the cycle of violence.
 
I’m aware that using the language of forgiveness
            when we are engaged in armed conflict
in defence of an ally and against an aggressor,
            is a deeply uncomfortable thing to do.
 
But, at the risk of offloading the blame here,
            I think Jesus knew what he was doing when he did the same.
 
Christian living after the pattern of Christ
            should be a continual dispensing of mercy and forgiveness,
            mirroring God’s own character and treatment of his people.
 
If we pray for God’s kingdom to come on earth, as it already is in heaven,
            then we have to start living
            as the people of the coming kingdom.
 
And this means living as people of forgiveness,
            forgiving the debts of others as we ourselves have been forgiven.
 
Society will often view such behaviour as weakness,
            and even in our churches,
                        forgiveness and mercy are all too often lacking
                        in our dealings with one another.
 
But as Mahatma Ghandi reportedly said,
            ‘Only the strong can forgive.’
 
The cost of forgiveness should never be trivialised,
            and when we offer someone forgiveness for their debt of sin towards us,
            we will always count the cost of this action in our own selves.
 
And there will come a time, hopefully soon,
            when the West has a choice as to how it will respond to Putin’s aggression
            and the people of Russia who are caught up in it.
 
For some, in some situations,
            forgiveness of the debt of the other will be a step too far.
 
I have a friend who was abused as a child,
            and she tells of various well-meaning Christians
            who told her over the years that she must forgive her abuser.
 
Her reflection on this has been
            that the requirement on her to offer forgiveness
            has made worse the abuse of her past,
                        by placing her once again in a position of weakness,
                        with others demanding of her that which she doesn’t want to give.
 
However, she has also said that she can see forgiveness as a goal
            towards which it is worth aiming,
                        even if it forever remains out of reach in this lifetime.
 
Some people within this community
            will also find great difficulty and pain
            in all this talk of forgiveness.
 
There are those of us for whom the abuse and sin is too raw,
            who have to live with a range of feelings,
            from anger to injustice, from rage to profound grief.
 
We must never trivialise forgiveness,
            and we must never abusively ask of the other
            that which they are not able to give.
 
Forgiveness is not easy, it does not come lightly,
            it does not come easily,
and for some it remains out of reach.
 
But...
 
Jesus’ parable challenges us
            to never give up making forgiveness and reconciliation our goal.
 
There are many ways in which we can be active
            in forgiveness of sins and debts,
as through our actions and by our prayers
            we bear testimony to the in-breaking kingdom of peace.
 
So we might consider becoming active
            in supporting those who work for peace
            between those nations caught in vicious cycles of violence.
 
We might become involved in campaigning to end torture and oppression
            through the work of organisations like Amnesty International
            or Action by Christians Against Torture
 
We might build conversations and friendships
            with those from other faith communities,
                        both as a church and as individuals,
and by doing so we might play our part
            in bringing together diverse religious and cultural communities
            in relationship and shared understanding
even when so much that is going on in our world
            makes such relationships uncomfortable or problematic.
 
We might involve ourselves in campaigning
            for the forgiveness of debts owed to the West
            by countries that can never repay.
 
We might change our purchasing practices,
            subverting the global system of debt and oppression
                        by buying fairly trade products,
                        or investing in ethical funds.
 
We might choose to become involved in local initiatives
            aimed at alleviating the burden of personal financial debts
            through the offering of debt advice
                        or the establishment of a credit union
 
We might simply seek lift up those
            who have fallen on our doorstep
            in poverty and need.
 
Jesus’ parable about forgiveness
            speaks down the centuries
            to the world in which we find ourselves in today,
and it challenges us to be those who find ways of living forgiveness
            in a world which seems hell-bent on violence
 
Peter asked Jesus:
            How often should I forgive? As many as seven times?
And Jesus replied,
            Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times
 
Don’t count it, just do it,
            and heaven knows what good forgiveness will do.


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