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Monday, 30 March 2026

Love to the End

Good Friday Reflection for Bloomsbury Central Baptist Church
3rd April 2026

John 19.31–42

Good Friday brings us to a strange kind of silence in the Gospel story.

Once the climactic moment of crucifixion is completed,
            the shouting crowds fade.
The soldiers have done their work.
            The long agony of the cross comes to its end.

And then we are left with what happens after death.

Bodies must be taken down.
            Burial must be arranged.
There are practical matters that cannot be ignored.
            These days we call it the ‘Sadmin’ – the administration that follows a death.

The Jewish authorities want the bodies of the crucified criminals removed quickly,
            because the Sabbath is approaching.
So soldiers check the condemned men.
            The legs of the two others are broken to hasten their deaths.
But when they come to Jesus, they see that he is already dead.
            Instead, one soldier pierces his side with a spear,
            and John tells us that immediately blood and water flow out.

Then two unexpected figures appear in the story.
            Joseph of Arimathea and Nicodemus.

Joseph is described as a disciple of Jesus,
            though secretly, because he feared the authorities.
Nicodemus we met earlier in the Gospel,
            coming to Jesus under the cover of night, searching for understanding.
These are not the bold public followers.
            These are cautious men, people who have kept their distance.

And yet here they are now.

Joseph asks Pilate for the body of Jesus.
            Nicodemus brings a large quantity of spices.
Together they take Jesus’ body,
            wrap it carefully in linen cloths with the spices,
                        according to the Jewish burial customs,
            and place him in a nearby tomb in a garden.

It is a scene filled with quiet tenderness.

After the violence of the crucifixion,
            there is now an act of care.
The body that has been humiliated and wounded is treated with dignity.
            People step forward to do what love requires.

Good Friday asks us to sit with this moment.
            Because death is never abstract.
                        It is physical.
                        It is embodied.
            It is the reality of bodies that must be carried, wrapped, buried, mourned.

And the Gospel does not rush past this.
            John wants us to notice every detail.

But John also wants us to see something more.
            He tells us carefully when all of this is happening.
It is the day of Preparation,
            the day before the Passover festival begins.

In Jerusalem, the Temple will be full of activity.
            Lambs are being slaughtered for the Passover meal.
Families are preparing to remember the ancient story of liberation,
            the night when the blood of the lamb marked the homes of Israel
            and death passed over them.

And John wants us to see
            that at precisely this moment, Jesus dies.
And this is not accidental.

From the very beginning of John’s Gospel,
            Jesus has been described in Passover language.
When John the Baptist first sees him, he declares,
            “Here is the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.”

And now, at the end of the story, that image comes fully into view.
            Just as the Passover lamb once marked the beginning
                        of Israel’s liberation from slavery,
            so now Jesus’ death becomes the sign of God’s liberation for the world.

Even the small details in the story echo that connection.
The soldiers do not break Jesus’ bones,
            recalling the instruction that the bones of the Passover lamb must not be broken.

Earlier in the crucifixion scene a hyssop branch appears,
            the very plant used in the Passover ritual to mark the doorposts with blood.

John is weaving the story together very deliberately.
            The cross is not simply a tragic execution.
It is a moment of profound theological meaning.
            It is the place where God confronts the forces that enslave human life.
Violence, domination, fear, and the machinery of empire that crushes human dignity.
            All of these powers gather around the cross.

And yet John tells us that something else is happening there too.
            One of the most mysterious details in the story
                        comes when the soldier pierces Jesus’ side.
            John says that immediately blood and water flow out.

At first glance it is an odd detail to include.
            But John rarely includes details without purpose.
Throughout this Gospel, water and blood have carried deep symbolic meaning.

Water is the sign of life.
            Jesus speaks to the Samaritan woman about living water
                        that becomes a spring within a person.
            He tells Nicodemus that people must be born of water and Spirit.

Blood, too, becomes a sign of life.
            Earlier in the Gospel, Jesus speaks in shocking language
            about giving his flesh and blood for the life of the world.

And now here, at the cross, these two images appear together.
            From the pierced body of Jesus, blood and water flow.
From the place of death, life emerges.

Early Christians would later see echoes here of baptism and communion,
            the water of new birth and the cup of the covenant.
But even before we move in that direction,
            the point John is making is clear.

The cross, the place of violence and death,
            becomes strangely the place where life begins to flow.

And this brings us to something that Good Friday confronts us with very directly.
            The incarnation goes all the way down.

Christians say that the Word became flesh.
            That God entered human life fully,
                        not as an appearance or an illusion,
                        but in real, vulnerable human flesh.

And Good Friday shows us what that means.
            Flesh that can be beaten.
                        Flesh that can be pierced.
            Flesh that must be wrapped in linen cloths and placed in a tomb.

There is no distance here between God and the realities of human suffering.
            God does not remain safely above the worst that the world can do.
God enters it: completely and fully,
            without holding back.

And this is why Good Friday
            is such a strange and powerful day in the Christian story.
Because what we see here is not simply the cruelty of human violence.
            We also see the depth of divine love.

Earlier in John’s Gospel we are told
            that Jesus loved his own who were in the world,
            and that he loved them “to the end.”

That phrase carries several meanings.
            It can mean to the very last moment.
            It can mean completely, fully, without limit.

Love to the end.
            And that is what we see on the cross.

Not love that withdraws when things become dangerous.
            Not love that protects itself from suffering.
            Not love that calculates the cost.

But love that continues even when it leads into the darkness.
            Love that remains present even in death.
            Love to the end.

And perhaps that is where Good Friday speaks most directly to us.
            Because if this is what the love of God looks like,
            then it also reveals the shape of the life we are called to live.

A love that refuses to abandon the wounded.
            A love that stands alongside those who suffer.
            A love that does not give up when the world becomes hard or frightening.

Good Friday does not offer easy comfort.
            The tomb is still closed at the end of this story.
            The silence of death remains.

But the Gospel leaves us with this quiet, stubborn truth.
            That in the strange mystery of the cross,
                        in the pierced body of Jesus,
            in the love that goes all the way to the end,
                        something life-giving has already begun to flow.

And that love, once released into the world,
            will not be stopped.

 

Monday, 23 March 2026

Thinking About Sex and Marriage as Christians

Opening a Christian Conversation


From time to time, questions surface in the life of the church that we would rather leave unspoken.

Sex outside marriage is one of them.

Often the conversation is framed as though the answer is already obvious, settled long ago, and beyond discussion. And yet, the lived realities of our congregations tell a different story.

People love, commit, desire, fail, begin again, and seek to follow Jesus in circumstances far more complex than the moral templates many of us inherited.

This post is not an attempt to announce a new rule. It is rather an invitation to think together, prayerfully and honestly, about what a Christian sexual ethic is actually for.

What are we trying to protect?

When Scripture addresses sexual behaviour, it is striking how often the concern is not sexual activity itself, but harm.

The sexual laws of Leviticus 18 and 20 are framed around boundaries that protect kinship structures, prevent abuse within households, and resist practices associated with domination and idolatry. They function less as abstract moral principles and more as safeguards for communal life.

The prophets repeatedly link sexual wrongdoing with injustice and exploitation. Hosea exposes sexual practices bound up with economic oppression and religious infidelity. Ezekiel places sexual abuse alongside extortion, bribery, and violence.

Sexual sin is never treated in isolation from social sin.

In the New Testament, the term most often translated as “sexual immorality” is porneia. In passages such as 1 Corinthians 5 and 6, it is closely associated with prostitution, exploitation, and the misuse of bodies within unequal power relations. Paul’s concern is not simply that sex is happening outside marriage, but that bodies are being treated as commodities rather than as members of Christ.

What we do not find is a sustained biblical discussion of consensual sexual relationships between unmarried adults who are not violating another household or exploiting another person. That silence does not resolve the question, but it should make us cautious about assuming that Scripture’s primary concern is marital status itself.

Marriage as gift, not boundary fence

Marriage matters deeply in Scripture, but it does not appear in a single, uniform form.

The Old Testament narrates a range of marital arrangements, often without endorsement and without disguising their complexity. Jacob’s household, for example, is marked by rivalry, pain, and injustice, particularly towards women. The text is honest about the cost of such arrangements rather than presenting them as ideals. David’s marriages are intertwined with political power and moral failure, most starkly in the story of Bathsheba.

The ethical problem here is not simply sexual activity, but the abuse of power and the silencing of the vulnerable.

In the New Testament, Jesus speaks positively of marriage, yet he never commands it. In Matthew 19, his concern is with faithfulness and with protecting those most at risk of being discarded. Marriage is honoured, but not absolutised.

If marriage itself shifts across Scripture, then it cannot function as a timeless moral boundary in quite the way it is sometimes made to do.

A relational rather than legal ethic

Paul’s ethical reasoning consistently prioritises relational impact over legal status. In 1 Corinthians 7, he resists imposing a single relational norm on the whole community. Marriage, singleness, and sexual restraint are all treated as vocations to be discerned rather than rules to be enforced. 

His repeated concern is for the good of the other and the building up of the community. In Romans 13, Paul reduces the law to love of neighbour. In Galatians 5, ethical life is framed not as obedience to a code but as walking by the Spirit, with love, patience, kindness, and self-control as the marks of faithfulness.

These texts do not give us a checklist, they give us criteria. A Christian sexual ethic shaped by these concerns will ask not only what is permitted, but what is life-giving, truthful, and responsible in particular relationships.

Bodies, grace, and the life of faith

Paul’s theology of the body is often read narrowly, but it is also profoundly affirming. In 1 Corinthians 6, Paul insists that bodies matter because they belong to God. This claim is made precisely in a context where bodies are being used and discarded. His response is not shame but dignity. The incarnation itself affirms that God meets us in bodily life.

Jesus eats, touches, forms deep relationships, and refuses to treat bodies as morally suspect by default. The Gospels present him as concerned not with bodily proximity, but with how people are treated.

If bodies are sites of divine concern, then sexual ethics must be about honouring bodies rather than simply regulating them.

Singleness and the limits of our imagination

Paul’s affirmation of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7 disrupts the assumption that marriage is the default or superior state.

The early Christian movement included households, friendships, celibate lives, and forms of belonging that do not fit neatly into a single relational model.

What bound them together was not conformity to one pattern, but participation in the life of Christ.

This should caution us against assuming that sexual maturity, moral seriousness, or faithful discipleship depend entirely on marital status.

A necessary pastoral word on safeguarding

Any Christian conversation about sex must begin and end with the protection of the vulnerable.

Consent is not simply verbal agreement. It is shaped by power, age, dependency, mental health, economic security, immigration status, and spiritual authority. Relationships that appear consensual may still be coercive or damaging.

The church must be clear that no theological openness ever excuses manipulation, pressure, secrecy, or harm. Safeguarding is not a limit on love. It is one of its most concrete expressions.

Opening the conversation

None of this is offered as a final answer. Scripture does not give us a simple yes or no to every contemporary question. What it offers instead is a sustained concern for love, justice, faithfulness, and care for the vulnerable.

Perhaps the question we need to ask is not, “Does this relationship fit our inherited categories?” But, “Does it reflect love of neighbour, truthfulness, and responsibility?”

If Christian ethics are about learning to live faithfully in the presence of God and one another, then this is a conversation worth having.

Carefully.

Humbly.

Together.

Biblical Texts for Further Reflection

The following passages are referenced or implied above.

Creation and embodiment

  • Genesis 1:26–31

  • Genesis 2:18–25

Sexual boundaries and communal protection

  • Leviticus 18:1–23

  • Leviticus 20:10–21

Prophetic critiques linking sex and justice

  • Hosea 4:1–14

  • Ezekiel 22:6–12

Narratives of complex family life

  • Genesis 29:16–30; 30:1–24

  • 2 Samuel 11:1–27

Jesus and marriage

  • Matthew 19:3–12

  • Mark 10:2–12

Pauline ethics and discernment

  • 1 Corinthians 5:1–5

  • 1 Corinthians 6:12–20

  • 1 Corinthians 7:1–40

  • Romans 13:8–10

  • Galatians 5:13–26

Community, vocation, and shared life

  • Acts 2:42–47

  • Acts 4:32–35